Why do people self-handicap themselves?

People self-handicap primarily due to the need to preserve a tolerable self-image and maintain self-esteem, especially when the healthy path to achieving it feels too difficult or threatening. It allows them to avoid guilt and regret associated with not actualizing their potential.

What are common self-handicapping behaviors?

Common behaviors include chronic substance abuse, habitual procrastination, identifying as a victim, and playing an active role in maintaining anxiety or depressive disorders. These actions create impediments that can be invoked as excuses for underachievement.

What are the benefits of self-handicapping?

The primary benefits are psychological: it protects self-esteem by offering excuses for failure and can enhance self-image if success is achieved despite the handicap, suggesting exceptional ability. It allows individuals to avoid the arduous path to healthy self-esteem.

What happens when self-handicapping strategies stop working?

Self-handicapping strategies lose effectiveness over time, especially in the latter half of life. Excuses become stale, and social circles may tire of offering sympathy, potentially leading to a breakdown of fragile self-esteem when faced with a mediocre life.

How can someone stop self-handicapping?

The first step is awareness – recognizing the self-handicapping behaviors and understanding one's complicity in their own downfall. Bringing these strategies out of unconscious self-deception is crucial, though often humbling and painful.

What is an example of self-handicapping using alcohol?

Alfred Adler described a man who used binge drinking as a self-handicapping strategy. His drunkenness served as a secret alibi for his failure to pursue his potential or fulfill social and professional duties, allowing him to avoid defeat and maintain a sense of superiority.

Why We Sabotage Ourselves - The Psychology of Self-Handicapping

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Self-handicapping is adopting impediments to protect self-esteem, offering excuses for underachievement.

Key Insights

Self-handicapping involves actively creating or exaggerating obstacles to avoid responsibility for failure.

The primary motivation behind self-handicapping is the need to preserve self-esteem and a positive self-image.

Healthy self-esteem is built through competence and effort, while self-handicapping offers a defensive, albeit ultimately detrimental, shortcut.

Success achieved despite self-imposed handicaps can lead to a magnified sense of ability and specialness.

Self-handicapping often fails in the long run, leading to regret and a collapse of self-esteem as excuses wear thin.

Awareness of self-handicapping behavior is the crucial first step toward recovery, despite the initial discomfort.

THE NATURE OF SELF-HANDICAPPING

Self-handicapping is a psychological phenomenon where individuals actively seek out or exaggerate impediments, thereby reducing personal responsibility for any perceived mediocrity or failure. Instead of directly confronting challenges, people may collaboratively engineer their own defeat. This behavior, while seemingly irrational and often associated with personality disorders, is paradoxically common and serves to fulfill deep-seated psychological needs. Research suggests that most people engage in self-handicapping to some extent, indicating that there are underlying benefits that individuals derive from these self-imposed obstacles.

THE NEED FOR SELF-ESTEEM

At the core of self-handicapping lies the fundamental human motivation to create and preserve a positive self-image, known as self-esteem. This self-evaluation reflects an individual's attitude of approval or disapproval towards themselves. While the healthy path to self-esteem involves striving for valued goals, cultivating skills, and developing character through hard work and risk-taking, many shy away from this arduous process. The uncertainties and potential for failure on the healthy path can be daunting, leading individuals to seek alternative, less demanding methods to maintain a favorable view of themselves.

SELF-HANDICAPPING AS A DEFENSIVE STRATEGY

When the healthy pursuit of self-esteem appears too threatening or difficult, self-handicapping emerges as an alternative strategy to protect one's self-image. individuals prone to this behavior often uncertainties about their abilities, leading them to engage in habits like substance abuse, procrastination, or adopting a victim mentality. These self-created barriers are then used as excuses for underachievement, allowing individuals to believe their lack of success stems from external factors rather than personal failings like laziness or cowardice. This self-deception safeguards their self-esteem by absolving them of guilt and regret.

PROTECTING SELF-ESTEEM AND ENHANCING IT

Self-handicappers are not necessarily aiming for failure but are willing to accept probable failure if it can be easily explained away. This strategy allows them to mask their concerns about achievement and competence. Alfred Adler referred to this as accepting defeat to ensure protection, where individuals develop 'symptoms' or impediments that serve as a barricade, providing a sense of security. Interestingly, if success is achieved despite these self-imposed limitations, the enhancement to self-image can be even greater, as it is interpreted as extraordinary ability or proof of exceptional talent.

THE LONG-TERM CONSEQUENCES OF SELF-HANDICAPPING

The effectiveness of self-handicapping strategies often diminishes over time, particularly in the latter half of life. As individuals age, the excuses for underachievement become stale, and those around them may grow weary of the constant justifications. Without external validation for their self-constructed handicaps and facing the emptiness of a life unfulfilled, the fragile structure of self-esteem begins to crumble. Ironically, the very self-erected barricades designed to protect self-esteem make failure more likely, leading to devastating long-term effects on the individual's sense of self-worth.

THE PATH TO RECOVERY: AWARENESS AND CONSCIOUSNESS

The critical first step toward overcoming self-handicapping is achieving awareness of this behavior. The power of this strategy lies in its ability to operate below conscious awareness through self-deception. Bringing these self-sabotaging maneuvers into conscious understanding is often a humbling and painful process. However, it is through this difficult journey of self-consciousness that the possibility of discontinuing this pernicious cycle emerges. Without this awareness, the self-deception that fuels self-handicapping remains unchallenged, perpetuating the behavior.

A CASE STUDY IN SELF-HANDICAPPING

Alfred Adler's case study of a 32-year-old man highlights how alcohol served as a self-handicapping strategy to excuse underachievement and maintain a facade of superiority. Despite intelligence and education, he lived off his parents, using binge drinking as a 'cherished alibi' for his failure to launch into a successful career or social life. His drinking began when faced with social or professional expectations, effectively relieving him of duties and allowing him to feel supported without significant effort or risk of defeat, thus 'triumphing' over life subjectively while accepting objectively poor terms.

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Avoiding Self-Handicapping: Strategies for Building Healthy Self-Esteem

Practical takeaways from this episode

Do This

Strive for valued goals and cultivate skills, competencies, and character to build healthy self-esteem.

Accept risk, sacrifice, and the possibility of failure on the path to competence.

Bring self-handicapping behaviors into conscious awareness to begin recovery.

Confront self-deception and the role you play in your own underachievement.

Seek awareness and understanding to overcome self-sabotage.

Avoid This

Do not recoil from the demands and uncertainties of healthy self-esteem building.

Avoid using impediments or handicaps as excuses for underachievement.

Do not embrace factors that reduce personal responsibility for mediocrity.

Do not rely on self-deception to protect your self-image.

Avoid chronic substance abuse, habitual procrastination, or victimhood as self-handicapping strategies.

Common Questions

Self-handicapping is a psychological strategy where individuals create or exaggerate impediments to their own success. This is done to protect self-esteem by providing external excuses for potential failure or by enhancing self-image if success is achieved despite the handicap.

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Self-handicapping Self-esteem Defensive Mechanisms Procrastination Self-deception Healthy Self-esteem Cognitive Biases Alfred Adler

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personSteven Burglas

A psychologist who, along with Edward Jones, noted that self-handicappers are willing to accept probable failure if it can be explained away, and who explains that self-handicapping maintenance is facilitated by motivated self-deception.

personCrider

A psychologist who has demonstrated self-handicaps in empirical research over the last decade.

personFrederick Rhdewalt

A psychologist who states that people employ self-handicapping strategies to protect self-esteem.

personRaymond Higgins

A psychologist who describes individuals prone to self-handicapping and their characteristics, and explains how self-handicapping is maintained by motivated self-deception.

personEdward Jones

A psychologist who, along with Steven Burglas, noted that self-handicappers are willing to accept probable failure if it can be explained away, and who writes that self-handicapping phenomena are strategic while eluding conscious awareness.

personHS Baker

A psychologist who analyzed students using procrastination and other self-handicapping strategies, noting the dual benefit of maintaining the grandiose self intact.