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What if you saw it differently? | Sujith Koshy Varghese | TEDxGIIS Dubai
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A severe bike accident left Sujith Koshy Varghese paralyzed, but his resilience and reframing of 'impossible' led him to become a Guinness World Record holder and motivational speaker.
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Sujith Koshy Varghese's perspective shifted dramatically after a bike accident at age 20 resulted in paralysis, forcing him to relearn basic life skills.
The Dewey Bozella story, about a man wrongly imprisoned for 20 years who refused to confess to a crime he didn't commit, was a key inspiration for Varghese to overcome his own challenges.
Varghese defied medical and familial expectations by single-handedly climbing 18 stairs to his room, demonstrating that 'impossible' is often a self-imposed limitation.
To train at a gym with boxing bags, Varghese undertook a 5.5-hour daily commute involving multiple modes of transport, highlighting his commitment to his goals.
He emphasizes that resilience is not an innate trait but built through repetition and recovery, and purpose provides direction over fleeting motivation.
Varghese identifies focus as crucial, noting that the modern world is designed to distract individuals from their goals, leading to the scrolling away of years.
The stark contrast between perceived reality and lived experience
Sujith Koshy Varghese opens by posing a provocative question: What if two people could face the exact same situation and derive entirely different realities from it? He contrasts the boundless belief of childhood, where 'impossible' doesn't exist, with the limiting belief systems developed through adult experiences. He observes how some individuals appear inherently capable, handling any situation with ease, often perceived as 'naturally God-gifted.' Varghese posits that we are designed for growth, learning, and survival, with our current selves being an accumulation of every choice, challenge, and experience. Adversity, he explains, is a natural part of life, essential for growth. However, the true challenge arises when one confronts unprecedented difficulties, unsure of how to proceed, a situation he personally experienced.
The accident that redefined 'impossible'
At the age of 20, Varghese's life took a drastic turn following a bike accident that resulted in paralysis below the chest. The vibrant, active individual who was a sports captain, basketball player, and boxer, found his identity shattered overnight. Waking from a four-day coma, he faced significant injuries including 18 skull fractures and a spinal cord injury, with doctors stating there was no cure. The subsequent three months in rehabilitation involved relearning fundamental actions like picking up objects, transferring from his wheelchair, sleeping, and showering. Returning home, he encountered a world not built for accessibility and was met with overwhelming sympathy, which he found isolating. This period marked his lowest point, characterized by loneliness, depression, and an uncertain future, with many dictating what he could and could not do.
Finding strength in the story of Dewey Bozella
During his recovery, Varghese found himself with an abundance of time for reflection. He questioned whether his confidence was tied to external factors or his core self, realizing that true identity stems from self-knowledge. His perspective profoundly shifted after watching a YouTube video about Dewey Bozella. At 23, Bozella was wrongly convicted of murder and spent 20 years in prison. Despite being offered parole if he admitted guilt, Bozella refused, maintaining his innocence. This unwavering stance led to an additional 10 years in prison. For five years, he persistently wrote to a law firm about his case, which eventually led to the discovery of evidence tampering and his exoneration. At 53, Bozella walked free, expressing no hatred. Varghese, inspired by Bozella's 30-year fight for freedom, felt a spark igniting within him, resolving not to give up and to challenge what others deemed impossible.
Conquering the stairs: a personal Everest
Fueled by a newfound determination, Varghese decided to tackle an immediate, personal challenge: sleeping in his upstairs room. Despite his mother's concerns and the universally held belief that it was impossible for him to ascend the stairs, Varghese refused to accept limitations. He abandoned his wheelchair and, using his upper body strength and the railing, painstakingly pulled himself up each of the 18 steps. This arduous effort, leaving him breathless and exhausted, was a monumental personal victory. It was the first time he had achieved something considered impossible, not by others carrying him or building a lift, but by his own will. This act reinforced the idea that individuals often limit their potential based on the perceived wisdom of elders or authority figures, drawing a parallel to Roger Bannister breaking the four-minute mile barrier, which opened the door for many others to follow.
Rebuilding strength and pursuing passion through discipline
Upon returning to Dubai in 2015, Varghese focused on rebuilding his physical strength and confidence, with the gym becoming his primary ground. Initially, his mother had to transport him, but as he gained strength, he began wheeling himself to the gym. A significant moment came when a local radio presenter, Chris Fade, heard his story and invited him to speak at his brand launch. This provided him with a gym membership at UFC Gym, a facility he greatly desired because it offered boxing bags—a feature his local gym lacked. Despite living in Sharjah, being unemployed, and not having a driver's license, he committed to the journey. Every morning at 5 a.m., he would wheel himself approximately 700 meters, navigate a footbridge, pass through a mall, and then take a bus and metro to reach his gym, a process that consumed 5.5 hours daily. This unwavering dedication was driven by his goal, demonstrating that limitations are often self-imposed mental barriers.
Embracing fear and failure as catalysts for growth
Varghese acknowledges that life doesn't magically become easier; embracing fear and failure is crucial. He recounts numerous instances of setbacks: falling in the gym, hitting his head, dropping weights on his fingers, receiving minimal applause on stage, and experiencing embarrassing open mic performances. However, he asserts that these failures did not stop him because he reframed them as part of his life's journey and the process of nurturing and unlocking different versions of himself. He likens personal growth to unlocking levels, suggesting that failing to do so leaves potential undiscovered throughout one's life. This continuous process of self-discovery is essential for realizing one's full capabilities.
Discovering purpose: the 'why' behind the actions
The fifth chapter of Varghese's journey revolves around purpose, his 'why.' He explains that sharing his journey and offering hope became his driving force. He references Simon Sinek's TED Talk on Apple, illustrating how successful entities focus on 'why' (their core belief and purpose) rather than just 'what' (their products) or 'how' (their methods). Varghese applies this to personal life, emphasizing that understanding one's purpose—the reason behind one's actions—is paramount. While he is introduced by his achievements (Guinness World Record holder, TEDx speaker, personal trainer), he stresses that these were not built in the spotlight but in the quiet, difficult moments of recovery, depression, and when no one was applauding. It is in these struggles that true foundations are laid.
The four pillars of a resilient life: purpose, focus, and self-discovery
Varghese outlines four key elements for navigating life: resilience, purpose, focus, and the courage for self-discovery. He defines resilience not as an innate trait but as something built through repetition and recovery from challenges, enabling one to remain calm amidst storms. Purpose, he clarifies, is about direction—knowing your 'why'—which provides discipline to act regardless of how you feel, unlike fleeting motivation. Focus is presented as a battle against the modern world's distractions, such as social media and trends, which can lead to years being 'scrolled away.' He urges individuals not to let these distractions derail their goals, noting the significant divergence in outcomes between focused individuals and those easily distracted. Ultimately, he encourages embracing curiosity, taking chances, and continuously seeking the 'next best version' of oneself, reminding the audience that facing a challenge is a moment, not their entire identity, and that new oceans can only be discovered by losing sight of the shore.
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A social media platform mentioned as a source of distraction that can take away from focus.
A gym that Sujith Varughese aspired to train at for its boxing bags, which were not available at his local gym in Sharjah, despite the significant travel effort it required.
A company discussed for its success, attributed to its focus on 'why' rather than just 'what' or 'how'.
A mall Sujith Varughese used to pass through as part of his daily 5:00 a.m. journey to the gym.
The area where Sujith Varughese's gym was located, requiring him to take a bus to reach it.
The place where Sujith Varughese returned after his initial rehabilitation following the accident.
The city where Sujith Varughese moved to pursue his bachelor's degree in commerce.
A metro station Sujith Varughese used as part of his long daily commute to the gym.
The location where Sujith Varughese was living and where his local gym lacked certain facilities, necessitating travel to Dubai for his training.
A location where Sujith Varughese would take a metro to, then transfer to another bus to reach his gym.
A speaker whose TED Talk on 'why' Apple succeeds is referenced to explain the importance of purpose.
The subject of a YouTube video whose story of fighting for 30 years in prison for a crime he did not commit inspired Sujith Varughese to overcome his own challenges.
The speaker, a Dubai-based motivational speaker and inclusion advocate, UAE's first wheelchair-bound certified personal trainer, and Guinness World Record holder, who shares his journey of resilience and personal growth after a life-altering accident.
A radio presenter in Dubai who invited Sujith Varughese onto his show, boosting his confidence and leading to further opportunities.
A runner famous for breaking the four-minute mile barrier, used as an example of how achieving a seemingly impossible feat can open doors for others.
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